What to Do if You Get a Save the Date but No Invitation
salve the date, but no nuptials invitation
Hey guys! i received a save the date, and nosotros were extremely shut when ig ot the save the appointment, but her wedding is coming upward in may and yeah we don't hang out as much every bit we did, but we nonetheless talk alot in classes and what not, but i haven't gotten an invitation...since i oasis't seen her in class, i'm bold that she's simply going to requite it to me when nosotros do run into other, merely there hasn't been mention of the wedding or invitation lately either..
..and i know that shes' been giving it out considering she gave it to her bridesmates, are you suppose to give your wedding ceremony party invitation before everyone else?
and if i don't get one in a few weeks, practise yous think it'd be okay to say something to her? and if so what practice i say to her?
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Super April 2014
Allison ·
I did requite my maid of laurels an invitation before anyone else, but, I don't know that it's a "thing" to give them to the bridal party first.
I wouldn't say annihilation to her. If she's inviting you lot, she will, and if your invitation was lost or anything, she'll either ask if you received it or follow-up one time RSVPs are due.
Also, my wedding ceremony is at the beginning of April and I just sent invitations out like i.5 weeks ago, soo, she'south still got some time.
But Said Yes February 2013
ashley ·
Perhaps its but me only to requite someone a relieve the date and not invite them would be completely rude right.
I would atleast tell them that plans have changed and we can't invite you anymore, right?
I don't know...I'thousand a very confrontational person and I just find that down right rude.
Master September 2014
Barbara ·
I hold with everything Allison said.
Master August 2013
OMW ·
Hold your horses. I wouldn't worry until at least six weeks before the wedding. If y'all do confront her, prepare for her definitely to non requite yous one.
That said, there was a post nigh sending someone an STD and deciding non to send an invitation. Information technology's virtually the tiptop and then you can run across reactions to that.
Just Said Yep February 2013
ashley ·
Master September 2014
Barbara ·
Yes, it is rude to send someone a save the date and then not invite them. Simply it would besides be rude for you to bring information technology upward with her.
Similar Allison said, she nonetheless has time to ship out her invitations.
Master Oct 2014
Aronna ·
Rude or not, If I got a Save the date and didn't go a invite as of about one month before the wedding, I would politely say something.
reason is that I do know of someone that had a wedding ceremony and there was at least ane invite that got lost in the post. the person that never got it, was angry for years because they assumed they weren't invited.
if you give a Salve the appointment, then it's given with the idea that the invitation will follow. many actually say on them 'invitation to follow'.
I wouldn't consider myself that out of line to bank check up on the invite, and I'd rather be guilty of being out of line then accept their exist injure feelings out of a possible misunderstanding.
Devoted February 2015
Jamie ·
I received a Salve the date , but no invitation to a good friends wedding.... I didn't know that I wasn't invited until I noticed a facebook post that reminded the guests to RSVP. I asked my friend ,Because I had besides moved in that time frame and thought mine had been lost and he told me he had to cutting his list downward a lot and he knew I would empathise. -__- I was a scrap hurt past that existence that nosotros were friends for quite a while and i had gone to the date party and been super supportive. I understand cutting the list but they should be able to tell you.
I would ask her but be prepared to be cut from the list. I hope it works out and keep us posted.
Just Said Yeah February 2013
ashley ·
Say that all this times does go by and a month before the wedding I exercise non get an invitation, how would I approach it? I don't want to come off equally likewise stiff headed.
Main May 2014
I would say, "you had sent me a std, but I haven't received an invite. I wanted to be certain it wasn't lost, am I still invited to the nuptials?" Permit her tell you lot and if she gives an answer you don't like, don't become upset and I would probably reevaluate my friendship.
Merely Said Yes February 2013
ashley ·
Only Said Yes Feb 2020
Patricia ·
This is an onetime post but I am going through this now and am doing enquiry. I am in the hospitality manufacture and I recollect information technology is proper etiquette to follow upwards if you got a save the date but no invite. You lot have asked a person to brand plans/accommodations and now they need to know if they need to modify plans or abolish accommodations. Plus if the invite got lost in the post or something, yous as a guest practice non want to make the helpmate and groom feel like you ignored their RSVP asking - which is rude, or that y'all did non ship a gift considering you are rude, you but simply never got the invite. I think the proper etiquette is to follow up. If the bride and groom changed plans, they demand to be prepared on how to properly accost that when asked.
Maria ·
I'g in a similar situation except that in my instance the groom is my husband's blood brother so I feel that it goes without saying, that nosotros are invited no matter what but, you never know. I'm planning to reach out and RSVP fifty-fifty if we don't somewhen receive the invitation considering I think that would be the most appropriate matter to do. Caput counts are important for whatsoever effect. When I got married the first time, I had a few extra guests show up and ended up non having enough food so I would never practice that to some other helpmate.